Me again,
it would be nice to get some of your opinions on the matter as that was such a long post this time and such a modern day issue with teenagers
Underaverage Girl
xxx
Wednesday, 22 May 2013
Personal and Intimacy
Hi guys,
so I've been thinking about sex and losing virginity as yet another girl has stupidly wasted it on some 'lad' she didn't even know when she was drunk- I do not under any circumstances want that to be me. So I just thought wouldn't it be best if everyone lost their virginity to someone they cared about in a non-sexual way? So that they don't have any expectations and it isn't awkward afterwards? So that they are 100% comfortable with this person and they can trust them not to brag about it? Yes ladies and gentleman, I am suggesting that everyone should feel that it is acceptable to lose their virginity to their best friend. I think this would be best as it means that the girl would know that the guy is not just using them for sex as they know them better than anyone else, I mean, if it's a true friendship then it won't 'ruin' your relationship with that person, who knows, it may even enhance it into something romantic.
I'm not suggesting that this is good for everyone as obviously people are different- in fact, no one should take any sort of advice from me about intimacy and relationships as I am just about the least sexually active teenager I know. But for me, this is how I would want my first time, unless by some freak chance I end up in a stable relationship in the nearish future (which I highly doubt given my current state). If two people have been best friends for a long time and they've so far been able to ignore all the teenage angst and frustration (because lets be realistic, none of you internet friends can honestly say that you have never ever ever thought of your best friend in that way) then I think that the first time would be a comfortable and loving experience as you would really care about each other and it wouldn't just be based on looks (girls are self conscious after all)
It just kills me a little bit inside when I hear about all these girls that just want to 'get it over with', but then again it's not the most realistic thought that someone would just say to their best friend 'I think we should lose our virginity to each other, just because erm I don't know if I love you but erm yeah...'
Oh and slight change of tone to all the 'lads' out there- taking advantage of intoxicated girls does not make you a 'lad' you will be praised so good for you jackass but she will be known as a slut so how about you pluck up the courage to be a man and have some respect for the girls your age and no sexual frustration and alcohol does not justify your completely unacceptable behavior so would you please control your arousal because to be frank, you probably aren't as good looking when she's sober so how about you actually take her on a date then maybe you will understand that sex is actually better when you're sober and in a loving relationship where you don't have to get her drunk for her to give you head. So no it is not okay to 'hump her and dump her' girls are sensitive and that hurts.
Sorry that turned into more of a rant at the end but you should all understand my point.
Underaverage Girl
xxx
so I've been thinking about sex and losing virginity as yet another girl has stupidly wasted it on some 'lad' she didn't even know when she was drunk- I do not under any circumstances want that to be me. So I just thought wouldn't it be best if everyone lost their virginity to someone they cared about in a non-sexual way? So that they don't have any expectations and it isn't awkward afterwards? So that they are 100% comfortable with this person and they can trust them not to brag about it? Yes ladies and gentleman, I am suggesting that everyone should feel that it is acceptable to lose their virginity to their best friend. I think this would be best as it means that the girl would know that the guy is not just using them for sex as they know them better than anyone else, I mean, if it's a true friendship then it won't 'ruin' your relationship with that person, who knows, it may even enhance it into something romantic.
I'm not suggesting that this is good for everyone as obviously people are different- in fact, no one should take any sort of advice from me about intimacy and relationships as I am just about the least sexually active teenager I know. But for me, this is how I would want my first time, unless by some freak chance I end up in a stable relationship in the nearish future (which I highly doubt given my current state). If two people have been best friends for a long time and they've so far been able to ignore all the teenage angst and frustration (because lets be realistic, none of you internet friends can honestly say that you have never ever ever thought of your best friend in that way) then I think that the first time would be a comfortable and loving experience as you would really care about each other and it wouldn't just be based on looks (girls are self conscious after all)
It just kills me a little bit inside when I hear about all these girls that just want to 'get it over with', but then again it's not the most realistic thought that someone would just say to their best friend 'I think we should lose our virginity to each other, just because erm I don't know if I love you but erm yeah...'
Oh and slight change of tone to all the 'lads' out there- taking advantage of intoxicated girls does not make you a 'lad' you will be praised so good for you jackass but she will be known as a slut so how about you pluck up the courage to be a man and have some respect for the girls your age and no sexual frustration and alcohol does not justify your completely unacceptable behavior so would you please control your arousal because to be frank, you probably aren't as good looking when she's sober so how about you actually take her on a date then maybe you will understand that sex is actually better when you're sober and in a loving relationship where you don't have to get her drunk for her to give you head. So no it is not okay to 'hump her and dump her' girls are sensitive and that hurts.
Sorry that turned into more of a rant at the end but you should all understand my point.
Underaverage Girl
xxx
Thursday, 2 May 2013
what is happening...
hello my friends of the magical interweb!!!
I can only apologize for the long wait and to be honest there is no excuse for it... but so so so much has happened since the last time we spoke (or typed...)
So... the main topic of concern as per usual is of course (cue drum roll) Will... William William William.. what are you doing to me?
I mean I'm pretty sure we're just friends which by the way is exactly how I like it!!! However... things may be changing a bit? No word of a lie I just got a text saying 'we should mix our wildness someday' and then 'come over tomorrow night...I'll show you a good time' WHAT??? I know he's joking however I also know that he's only half-joking... everything has all of a sudden become increasingly sexual and I'm feeling a lot of sexual tension...
To increase my confusion further- we went on a 'date'.. I mean I didn't see it as a date at the time or after or before but now when I think about it I can't help but realize that it is not normal for two friends to go on a long walk by the river and then visit a grave of a relative... this worries me... All I can say is.. thank god nobody made a move.. the thought of it makes me cringe a little bit
He wants to see me again and I want to see him because maybe it will clarify some things but he's super busy with revision for these big exams which I won't have till next year..
Until next time!!
Underaverage Girl
xxx
I can only apologize for the long wait and to be honest there is no excuse for it... but so so so much has happened since the last time we spoke (or typed...)
So... the main topic of concern as per usual is of course (cue drum roll) Will... William William William.. what are you doing to me?
I mean I'm pretty sure we're just friends which by the way is exactly how I like it!!! However... things may be changing a bit? No word of a lie I just got a text saying 'we should mix our wildness someday' and then 'come over tomorrow night...I'll show you a good time' WHAT??? I know he's joking however I also know that he's only half-joking... everything has all of a sudden become increasingly sexual and I'm feeling a lot of sexual tension...
To increase my confusion further- we went on a 'date'.. I mean I didn't see it as a date at the time or after or before but now when I think about it I can't help but realize that it is not normal for two friends to go on a long walk by the river and then visit a grave of a relative... this worries me... All I can say is.. thank god nobody made a move.. the thought of it makes me cringe a little bit
He wants to see me again and I want to see him because maybe it will clarify some things but he's super busy with revision for these big exams which I won't have till next year..
Until next time!!
Underaverage Girl
xxx
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